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MLB Player Miguel Cabrera in Court Over Child Support

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Tigers first baseman/DH Miguel Cabrera is being sued by a woman from Orlando, Florida who claims that he "unilaterally" reduced the amount of his monthly child support payments, Tony Paul of The Detroit News reports. Cabrera, who has three children with his wife Rosangel, also had two children with Belkies Mariela Rodriguez in 2013 and 2015.

12 Inspiring Quotes from Celebrity Moms and Dads About Co-Parenting

    A reprint of an article by Taylor Pittman for Huffington Post.

    In maBabies-on-red-carpet-MAIN.jpggazine interviews and television appearances, the co-parents of Hollywood have made it clear that the experience isn't always simple and easy, but have also stressed that it is possible to remain a loving family after a separation or divorce.

    Here are 12 quotes from celebrity moms and dads about co-parenting.

Back to School Tips for Co-Parents

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The new school year is quickly approaching and it's time to start preparing. If you, as co-parents, are both active in your child's life, this can be a challenging task. Preparing your child for a new school year requires a lot of coordination and cooperation between you and the other parent. This is an important time for your child to feel support from both of you and to know that you both care. Here are some tips to remember to make going back to school as smooth as possible for you and your child.

5 Tips for Surviving Joint Custody with a Combative Ex

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When we finish up a "high conflict" custody case in which my client is dealing with a very combative other parent, I always just know that my client is going to have a very rough road ahead for the next 18 or so years.  The following article, from Divorcedmoms.com is by Shanon Lee and it outlines some of the things you can do to make your life easier and (hopefully) stay out of court:

5 Tips for Surviving Joint Custody with a Combative Ex

"Just know that your son loves you and you will receive justice in your case against your ex," were the kind words muttered by a curious stranger in the jewelry shop that day. She immediately caught my attention, as my thoughts shifted to the court hearing scheduled the following week. I would never have sought a psychic, but I was oddly comforted during the few moments I allowed her to share a more hopeful vision of my future.

I prayed for justice during the ongoing custody and visitation battle that began six months after my son was born. The journey had been long and arduous, and with each year, I had gained new scars. But, it also became easier to let the love I carried for my child influence the way I communicated with his father and how I responded to new attacks.

A new mother once again, I was happily involved in what would become the healthiest romantic relationship of my life. Though it was tempting, I knew ignoring the problems with my ex would not make them go away. Experience had taught me that I could not change him, but I could alter the way I reacted to his negative behavior and develop the skills I needed to parent amid conflict.

The following steps can help you survive joint custody with a combative ex:

Nesting: Is It the Best Arrangement for the Kids?

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The following article is from the NY Times, about a concept called "nesting".  I have had some clients try it and to be honest, it didn't seem like it worked well for anything but a very temporary basis.  Nesting started in cities like New York, where real estate is SO expensive that divorcing parents couldn't afford to have 2 households.  But would it be necessary in the Midwest?

"MY DIVORCE IS UNCONTESTED", OR IS IT?

Most everyone probably has heard that an uncontested divorce can save people a ton of time, money and aggravation, so it is usually the goal of at least one of the parties to the divorce. Because of that, many people call me and tell me that they need to hire me to do a non-contested divorce. And then they tell me their situation...

MY SPOUSE AND I ARE GETTING DIVORCED... WHO GETS ROVER???

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I often have clients ask me how "Custody" of pets will be handled. Can we do a custody schedule for who the dog is with? Will the pets travel back and forth with the kids? And what about a situation where a pet is old or sickly and has high medical bills? Is it fair for one spouse to be left on the hook for all of that?

In divorce, protecting financial well-being is fundamental

RIF is an acronym many in Missouri may be familiar with. It stands for Reading is Fundamental. The organization got its start 50 years ago as a way to improve childhood literacy by getting books into the hands of kids. It promotes the idea that reading is "fun" on one hand, and essential to overall well-being on the other.

At the core, what this reflects is the importance of education. And considering how complicated dissolving a marriage can be, it follows that a good education about key aspects of the process is essential. This might be particularly true as regards sustaining the financial well-being of both the divorcing parties.

My oldest child turned 18, shouldn't my support payment drop?

The issue of child support can present a lot of complications. Those with experience in dealing with such matters under Missouri law know that a so-called "calculator" is used to set levels of payment for parents. But in our computer-dominated world, there is truth in the phrase "garbage in, garbage out."

If the information provided at the time support determinations are made isn't accurate, the child suffers. He or she doesn't get the full support they are due under the law. It is also not uncommon that if one parent is the main caregiver for a child, the other parent is expected to pick up the greater share of the financial tab.

Knowing when to contact a divorce attorney

A great many spouses who eventually end their marriages spend an enormous amount of time considering that possibility prior to taking any action. Some are uncertain at which point they should contact a divorce attorney, and waver in making this critical decision. It is important to understand that when it comes to matters of Missouri divorce, including property division and child custody, taking a proactive approach is the best possible course of action.

For example, one of the first steps in any divorce case involves gathering a significant volume of documentation on family financial matters. It is not uncommon for a spouse who is angry or bitter at the news of a divorce to intentionally block his or her partner's ability to access that information. That can prolong the divorce process, and can drive up the costs for everyone involved. By working with an attorney prior to filing for divorce, a great deal of these paperwork matters can be handled in advance.

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