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Understanding the Missouri Child Support Payment system

I get calls from clients (and former clients) saying that they have not received their child support payment, or that they don't know how to find 

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out if they are up to date on child support payments. Often I can find the answer to their question very quickly by logging onto Missouri's Department of Social Services website, and the info is something that most anyone can access as long as they have the right information.

10 Great Pieces of Divorce Advice

Family Law basics.jpgPeople thinking about a divorce don't always get the best guidance from others when they are starting on their journey.  Well meaning friends, family members and unscrupulous attorneys may mislead you without even meaning to.  So here are some important things to think about if you are thinking about going down this path:

1.  Make sure your marriage is over

It doesn't matter how often you threatened to get divorced in the past or ho wmuch you and your spouse discussed it.  Once you ring the bell it is very difficult to "un-ring" it.  So make sure it is what you really want (and need) to do. 

Sports Parents and Shared Custody

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As if it isn't challenging enough to co-parent with your Ex, if you have a child or children that play sports it can make it even harder. For parents sharing custody of children, navigating your parenting arrangement with youth sports almost represents a microcosm of all the issues that can come up in co=parenting.

Common Sense Gun Control

domestic violence gun.jpgJust a few days ago in St Louis, a 7 year old boy was accidentally shot and killed by his older brother when they were playing with a gun that was in their home. 

The following is taken from the website of the group "Moms Demand Action for Guns Sense in America":  

Why Trump's tax plan may spur more divorces

Looming End of Alimony Write Off has Divorce Lawyers Telling Clients to Act Fast

Republicans may pride themselves on upholding family values, but their new tax law could soon lead to a surge in married couples calling it quits.

Lawyers are counseling couples considering divorce to do it this year - before a 76-year-old deduction for alimony payments is wiped out in 2019 under the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act.



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How many times have we heard this story:  a woman gets an Order of Protection against her abusive husband which excludes him from the house and orders that he not come near her.  Then, a few days after the order is handed down by the judge, the guy goes to her home, work or her mother's house and shoots her.  


This happens all too often in Missouri, where our legislators think it is more important to protect a man's right to be able to bag that deer during hunting season than it is to protect a woman's right not to be shot.

MLB Player Miguel Cabrera in Court Over Child Support


Tigers first baseman/DH Miguel Cabrera is being sued by a woman from Orlando, Florida who claims that he "unilaterally" reduced the amount of his monthly child support payments, Tony Paul of The Detroit News reports. Cabrera, who has three children with his wife Rosangel, also had two children with Belkies Mariela Rodriguez in 2013 and 2015.

12 Inspiring Quotes from Celebrity Moms and Dads About Co-Parenting

    A reprint of an article by Taylor Pittman for Huffington Post.

    In maBabies-on-red-carpet-MAIN.jpggazine interviews and television appearances, the co-parents of Hollywood have made it clear that the experience isn't always simple and easy, but have also stressed that it is possible to remain a loving family after a separation or divorce.

    Here are 12 quotes from celebrity moms and dads about co-parenting.

Back to School Tips for Co-Parents


The new school year is quickly approaching and it's time to start preparing. If you, as co-parents, are both active in your child's life, this can be a challenging task. Preparing your child for a new school year requires a lot of coordination and cooperation between you and the other parent. This is an important time for your child to feel support from both of you and to know that you both care. Here are some tips to remember to make going back to school as smooth as possible for you and your child.

5 Tips for Surviving Joint Custody with a Combative Ex


When we finish up a "high conflict" custody case in which my client is dealing with a very combative other parent, I always just know that my client is going to have a very rough road ahead for the next 18 or so years.  The following article, from is by Shanon Lee and it outlines some of the things you can do to make your life easier and (hopefully) stay out of court:

5 Tips for Surviving Joint Custody with a Combative Ex

"Just know that your son loves you and you will receive justice in your case against your ex," were the kind words muttered by a curious stranger in the jewelry shop that day. She immediately caught my attention, as my thoughts shifted to the court hearing scheduled the following week. I would never have sought a psychic, but I was oddly comforted during the few moments I allowed her to share a more hopeful vision of my future.

I prayed for justice during the ongoing custody and visitation battle that began six months after my son was born. The journey had been long and arduous, and with each year, I had gained new scars. But, it also became easier to let the love I carried for my child influence the way I communicated with his father and how I responded to new attacks.

A new mother once again, I was happily involved in what would become the healthiest romantic relationship of my life. Though it was tempting, I knew ignoring the problems with my ex would not make them go away. Experience had taught me that I could not change him, but I could alter the way I reacted to his negative behavior and develop the skills I needed to parent amid conflict.

The following steps can help you survive joint custody with a combative ex:

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