Understanding the Missouri Child Support Payment system

I get calls from clients (and former clients) saying that they have not received their child support payment, or that they don't know how to find out if they are up to date on child support payments. Often I can find the answer to their question very quickly by logging onto Missouri's Department of Social...

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Sports Parents and Shared Custody

As if it isn’t challenging enough to co-parent with your Ex, if you have a child or children that play sports it can make it even harder. For parents sharing custody of children, navigating your parenting arrangement with youth sports almost represents a microcosm of all the issues that can come up in co=parenting. Decision…

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Common Sense Gun Control

Just a few days ago in St Louis, a 7 year old boy was accidentally shot and killed by his older brother when they were playing with a gun that was in their home. The following is taken from the website of the group "Moms Demand Action for Guns Sense in America": Moms Demand Action...

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12 Inspiring Quotes from Celebrity Moms and Dads About Co-Parenting

A reprint of an article by Taylor Pittman for Huffington Post. In maBabies-on-red-carpet-MAIN.jpggazine interviews and television appearances, the co-parents of Hollywood have made it clear that the experience isn't always simple and easy, but have also stressed that it is possible to remain a loving family after a separation or divorce. Here are 12 quotes...

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5 Tips for Surviving Joint Custody with a Combative Ex

When we finish up a "high conflict" custody case in which my client is dealing with a very combative other parent, I always just know that my client is going to have a very rough road ahead for the next 18 or so years.  The following article, from Divorcedmoms.com is by Shanon Lee and it...

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Nesting: Is It the Best Arrangement for the Kids?

The following article is from the NY Times, about a concept called "nesting".  I have had some clients try it and to be honest, it didn't seem like it worked well for anything but a very temporary basis.  Nesting started in cities like New York, where real estate is SO expensive that divorcing parents couldn't...

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“MY DIVORCE IS UNCONTESTED”, OR IS IT?

Most everyone probably has heard that an uncontested divorce can save people a ton of time, money and aggravation, so it is usually the goal of at least one of the parties to the divorce. Because of that, many people call me and tell me that they need to hire me to do a non-contested...

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My oldest child turned 18, shouldn’t my support payment drop?

The issue of child support can present a lot of complications. Those with experience in dealing with such matters under Missouri law know that a so-called "calculator" is used to set levels of payment for parents. But in our computer-dominated world, there is truth in the phrase "garbage in, garbage out." If the information provided...

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Having second thoughts about a child custody case?

For Missouri parents, few things are more stressful than the end of a marriage. Not only does divorce represent the end of the bond between a husband and wife, it also brings about a wide range of worries about how parenting time will be divided. It is not uncommon for parents to have second thoughts...

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A win in Kelly Rutherford’s child custody case

Many Missouri readers are familiar with the long-running custody battle between "Gossip Girl" star Kelly Rutherford and her former husband. The pair have been embroiled in a heated fight over the care and custody of their two children, and the international aspects of the child custody case have made the fight difficult on all sides....

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